These days we hear a lot about letting go and allowing what will be to be.
When we let go, does much actually change? Not that much, really. I think control is quite the illusion in this way.
Some bad things are going to happen, whether we obsess about preventing them or not. On the other hand, some bad things are more likely to happen if we do obsess about preventing them – a self-fulfilling prophecy.
For example, if you obsessively worry about car accidents to the point that you make yourself nervous, then you are more likely to cause an accident.
On the other hand, if we never worried about the dangers on the road, we may become reckless, and again, with the same undesirable outcome.
So what is the answer? I think it’s about holding things lightly. Ideal outcomes, desires, even plans.
There are a million different factors outside of our control; from the behaviour of other humans to ‘acts of God’. The idea that we can control anything outside of ourselves is rather misinformed.
Whether Charles Darwin really said this or not, I like it! This quote makes me think that survival is less about holding on tightly, or fighting against, but rather about rolling with the punches and changing with the tides.
So try holding ideas lightly, with aim and intention, not control or fear. Learn to adapt, to respond, and to thrive.